Wonderful Expectation

I’m sitting in front of a computer screen blank, cursor flashing with possibility, my hair damp from the night’s shower (that I shared with the dog who got skunked three days ago and needed another dose of something to fight the lingering skunk funk), listening to the chug of the washing machine and the static white noise coming through the baby monitor. Outside, our house’s Christmas lights are reflecting off of the wet pavement. And I am trying to find the words to express what my heart so deeply longs for in this season of Advent with young children.IMG_5033

It’s slowness. Care. Unhurried appreciation that I want most. More than anything. It’s my baby boy’s first Christmas and my daughter’s fifth. Their first Christmas together. My first Christmas as a mother of two. Why can’t the world see that and understand that I am desperate for the opportunity to cherish this? If Advent in its very soul embodies the spirit of expectation then why does the world make it so very hard to move slowly enough to do so? Christmas is a week away. We didn’t see Santa this year or ride on the Polar Express train. We haven’t baked. I love doing all of those things but they just didn’t happen and it’s because I didn’t force them to happen. Actually, I haven’t forced anything. And it has felt so good. Now I am not here to praise myself for finally doing what is best for our family and for our kids, because I have a lot of rushing and forcing in my past that I need to make up for. I’m not even here to tell you to “take it easy” this Christmas because in all honesty you’ve probably heard that message somewhere. But I will tell you that if you have been looking for an excuse to have a holiday season that is filled with less…you don’t need an excuse. You don’t. Now my gift to my father-in-law and his sweet wife is simpler and less involved that I had originally planned, and that’s bothering the perfectionist in me a great deal. But they don’t know how I wanted it to turn out. All they will know tomorrow when I show up at their house is that my children love them, we love them, and we will have a meaningful gift (and wine) to share. My neighbors might not get home baked cookies from me this Christmas, but they also know that I had a baby this year and I somehow doubt that they will be expecting cookies from the lady who only has time to get her mail every three or four days.

All I’m saying is that it is OK to not have a Santa picture to post on social media. It’s OK that the ornaments on your tree start halfway up because that’s where your one year old can’t reach them. It’s also OK to take your daughter to the Nutcracker ballet because that is the thing that will make her little ballerina heart sing. And to tell your husband on the day that it is pouring down rain that you still really want to go get a Christmas tree, but that you promise a back massage later.  Traditions are important. They are beautiful. They are cement to a family’s foundation and to a child’s youth. But you can have just a few of them and still be a good mom. Heck, a fantastic mom. When Mary said “yes” to the angel and “yes” to carrying Emmanuel, it was a simple but profound acceptance and an act of obedience from her heart. She didn’t have to do any more or any less than follow God’s plan. You and I don’t either. Mothering our babies through one of the most beautiful seasons of the year can be a profound but wonderfully simple thing if we let it.

My hope tonight is that however your heart celebrates the holiday that it can embrace a slow and beautiful simplicity. Happy Advent. Merry Christmas. And may your home be filled with glorious expectation.

12,727 thoughts on “Wonderful Expectation”

  1. WOw amazing house … WOw amazing house at a great price, im sure its even cheaper down there now. Me and my gf have thought about moving there in the next year sometime ’12. Deff look you guys up when it comes time to look at houses. Keep up the good video work. Maybe a bit more of the outside of the house though. -1Was this answer helpful?

  2. Godt indlæg!Hvad med Hanegals frosne pakker med hakket høne, kyllingemedister eller kyllingebrystfilet'er? Det er øko og fÃ¥s i Føtex – i denne uge til 29 kroner pakken. Kunne det ikke være et alternativ, hvis du kun skal have lidt ad gangen?Kærlig hilsen Tatjana

  3. Choose who you feel most at home with; don’t take into consideration what others’ll think of you. As for your ‘friend’, they’re not really that considerate. Good friends accept you for who you are, despite the fact of who you interact with, so on, so on. Again, just choose who YOU are most compatible with cause after all, it’s not like who you choose will someone determine someone else’s friend. It’ll determine yours.References :

  4. Camila Lopes comentou em 7 de dezembro de 2009 às 13:47. Comprei esse findi o lápis bleu evasion da bourjois numa importadora, belíssimo! valeu pela dica Julia! ;*Vou hoje procurar essa sombra tokyo acetinado na Contém 1g. Agora a sombra Chanel Ombre Unique 10 Tumulte tem alguma similar lá na Contém 1g? Já procurei tanto e não acho, nem na Sack’s..Adorei esse make, tô louca pra fazê-lo! :)Beijosss! ;*

  5. “Ehhez csak gratulálni tudok. Ahhoz már kevésbé, hogy szemmel láthatólag saját szavaid értelmezése is némi nehézséget okoz. Ezt írtad ugyanis, idézem: “hasznos lesz a második kiadásnál”. Aminek kb semmi köze a folytatáshoz.De azért ne csüggedj, frappáns riposzt volt ez így is.”Béka, ezt most te írtad Balfrásznak, vagy Balfrász írta saját magának, hogy a válaszában keményen móresre taníthasson Téged, azaz önmagát, az ál-Békát, esetleg mégis Téged?Hogy is van ez, Te Béka?Mély tisztelettel:L. N. Peters

  6. Wtedy to wiadomo, ale teraz nie jest już szefem zbrojeniówki od lat, choć wiadomo, ze jest z nimi zaprzyjaźniony, zresztÄ… przecież nigdy tego nie ukrywaÅ‚. Ale mi siÄ™ wydawaÅ‚o, że to on ich siÄ™ sÅ‚ucha i dlatego oni go lubiÄ….Choć z drugiej strony, kiedy sobie przypomnieć jego sposób “marszaÅ‚kowania”…

  7. I don’t understand – with no pension and no company 401k match where does that leave workers who might not want to work until they drop? I assume that once the match is dropped companies won’t ever want to re-instate it. Will retirement be a thing of the past?

  8. il computer è una scatola stupida, come diceva popper.ogni disastro informatico elencato da paolo, è stato creato da un errore umano, sia di data entry che di valutazione.quindi perché questo caso dovrebbe essere diverso dagli altri?che differenza c’è tra immettere un numero sbagliato o programmare un sensore con un sistema metrico-decimale diverso da quello di tutti i sistemi installati nella stessa macchina?

  9. 中国美食历史积厚流光,其中更是包含了华夏民族对美食的酷爱。鲁、川、粤、闽、苏、浙、湘、徽菜系为中国的“八大菜系”,川菜的辛辣.&#319

  10. Doesn’t this just go to show how techie types lack empathy?It’s funny, there are many utopians who envisage a new age of peace and oneness, but the USAF don’t seem to envisage themselves as absent from that picture. There’s a lack of communication there somewhere, I’m sure.

  11. Hockeyfreak. Frölunda får det uppenbarligen tufft ikväll. A-laget till Övik och B-laget till Luleå.Jag ser att många tror på en enkel seger för Gnaget, själv är jag inte lika säker. AIK är uppskrivna i år på ganska lösa grunder. samtidigt är Timrå redan klara för Ks. Tror det blir ganska jämt, men att AIK tar alla poäng.

  12. I always prefer to enjoy myself when I go out rather than spending the whole evening taking photographs. I often don't even bother taking my camera as it is too heavy to carry around.Looks like a fun night and the food sounds delicious. I love the maxi dress. I never manage to find anything amazing and vintage at my local charity shops. Perhaps I am not looking often enough.

  13. TheTom DJ gets a gold star with that comment. "Peak cheap oil" is either here already or will be by 2015, no question.By 2012 all my vehicles will be electric cars. I won’t be held hostage by uncertain oil supplies again. February 27 2010 at 5:00 PM rate up rate down

  14. 中国人对动物,一贯欺软怕硬。熊虎英武,于是比之于上将;猪羊听话,就可怜被磨刀霍霍。猪的形象,被天蓬元帅八戒一托生,就此奠定。&#36

  15. I agree that the two justice systems are far different, but the point I and likely the OP were trying to make is that our system is still incredibly unjust. It is self-evident that the NK concentration camps are an abomination, but not quite as many people realize just how [expletive] up the USA system is. As I mentioned, we are locking up people in this country that aren’t crimes in other countries. I think we’re better off examining the problems in our own system than going half way around the world to find someone to fault. I also disagree with your assertion that we have the power to intervene.

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