Becoming Mom

One of the more incredible and mysterious things about becoming a mother is when exactly it happens. When is it official? There is no formal ceremony that initiates you into the club complete with a donning of cap and gown. There are ceremonies to be had, sure, and most of our births will include some sort of sheer, drafty hospital gown, but I don’t think the becoming of a mother happens with a turn of the tassel. It seems to me that it’s a process that starts with peeing on a stick, or perhaps getting the call that stops your heart with so much joy that it takes a beat to catch up, “you’re getting a baby. You’ve been chosen”. I think that the second we know that a chosen soul is to be ours that miraculous shift takes place. Any woman with a child in Heaven knows that motherhood doesn’t only start with birth- it happens before that. It happens with hesitancy and doubt at first. Am I truly pregnant? Am I really getting a baby? For some it is a shock. For others, years prayed for. Tears will be shed, both in fear and in joy. And slowly that realization starts to settle over our forever changed hearts. I am going to be a mother. I am a mother.

That is when the ceremonies begin. The baby showers, the purchasing of baby furniture and car seats. We start reading everything we can get our hands on (at least I did!) about pregnancy, birth, raising an infant, breastfeeding, attachment with adoption, making your own baby food, and how to get a baby to sleep. We form opinions about diapering, feeding, parenting, sleep, how long to rear-face in the car seat, pacifiers, day care, and babywearing. And somewhere in this process we fall head-over-heels in love with the precious baby that is ours, whether we are carrying that baby in our bellies or in the womb of another. The mom jeans have been donned as bellies grow and the anticipated day draws nearer.

And yet…and yet I think most of us will also argue that something indeed does change the second that chosen soul is earthside. Birth is twofold, in that when a baby is born, so is a mother. The entrance of a baby into the world is the culmination of what was begun 40-some weeks prior, but I think the distinction is that for the first time the two people of baby and mother are truly separate. Forever joined, but still separate. And THIS, this separateness is what I think is the most defining and challenging things about becoming a mother. Birth is a gain and a loss. It is the birth of a unique individual, crafted by the hands of an awesome Creator to fulfill a beautiful purpose in life. The gain is that as mothers we get to witness that life and steward it with gracious, patient love. The loss is that we don’t get to control it. There is so much that we get to decide for our children. All that research we do about purees verses solids and cloth diapers verses disposables is important, but it cajoles us into a sense of control that we relinquish with birth. The sudden realization is jolting. We don’t have ultimate control. We never did. The precious life that we carried in our bodies and hearts for 9, some of us 10 months is not just ours to carry any longer. It is achingly beautiful to touch our infant’s gorgeous little nose and kiss that bow mouth in the way that we have dreamed of for so long. And at the same time we acknowledge that the courtship and the anticipation have ended. It’s risky to love something so fiercely.

What we do with that tension defines how we mother. It is the knowledge of that give and take that fuels our patience and our stamina when the days and nights seem unbearable. It is the powerful understanding that our baby is a gift that at one time we did not have that becomes our center in the midst of tantrums and night terrors. And when we push the feathery hair off the foreheads of children that have lost that baby softness to sinewy muscles and long legs, it is the quiet recollection to a day long ago that anchors us. I chose motherhood. I chose this child and this child chose me.

I didn’t become a mother at 5:34am when I saw the faintest red “+” on a plastic stick. I didn’t become a mother when the last pull of the surgeon’s hand wrenched her pink roundness from my belly and announced, “it’s a girl”. I became a mother the first time I said yes. Yes to sacrifice and love and the greatest vulnerability I have ever known. Yes to fear and joy and to living with my soul forever changed because it has been uniquely tied to two others in a way that nothing could ever compare to. Today, tomorrow, and every day that I get the privilege of being called “Mom”. Yes.

132,885 thoughts on “Becoming Mom”

  1. I know top Blog professionals would really like your blog. You have a good head on your shoulders. You always know just what to say. I truly appreciate this page. Neat post.

  2. I just wanted to send a quick note in order to express gratitude to you for those awesome information you are sharing on this site. My time consuming internet research has finally been paid with brilliant know-how to share with my pals. I ‘d say that many of us readers are undeniably blessed to live in a great site with so many brilliant professionals with very helpful solutions. I feel pretty happy to have encountered your web site and look forward to plenty of more fabulous moments reading here. Thanks once more for everything.

  3. Oh my goodness! a tremendous article dude. Thank you However I’m experiencing problem with ur rss . Don’t know why Unable to subscribe to it. Is there anybody getting similar rss drawback? Anybody who is aware of kindly respond. Thnkx

  4. There are certainly a lot of details like that to take into consideration. That is a great point to bring up. I offer the thoughts above as general inspiration but clearly there are questions like the one you bring up where the most important thing will be working in honest good faith. I don?t know if best practices have emerged around things like that, but I am sure that your job is clearly identified as a fair game. Both boys and girls feel the impact of just a moment’s pleasure, for the rest of their lives.

  5. Thank you, I have just been looking for info approximately this topic for
    a while and yours is the greatest I’ve found out till now.

    But, what in regards to the bottom line? Are you sure concerning
    the supply?

  6. ディオールの歴史を振り返った展覧会でも、仕方のないことなのかも知れませんがディールから突然ラフに富んだような印象を受けました。 東京電力は、1号機の使用済み燃料プールから核燃料を取り出すため、建屋カバーを解体してがれきを撤去する計画で、今月22日から粉じんの飛散を防ぐ薬剤をまく作業を続けてきました。 [url=]ビームス モンクレール[/url]
    裏地がチラ見えしてインナーとの間にストールを差し込んでる様に見え、メリハリでますね袖にまで柄がでて凝ってますこちら、カーディガンが¥13,440      ロンTが    ¥8,295 です。 お電話でのご注文の場合、代金引換のみ、送料はお客様負担となります。
    [url=]モンクレール 激安 レディース[/url] それはそれの「中二階」を取り戻すことができますように分離する必要があります。 それとドルチェはちょっと品数が少なかったので、予想していたことですが残念でした。
    [url=]モンクレール メンズ ポロシャツ[/url]
    【2007年】ナラ様がchokichokiのおしゃれキングを卒業2006年に男性ファッション誌で売り上げ1位を記録したchokichoki。 それで、本当は店員の方にチャーチを語って頂きたかったのですが、忙しそうでそれどころではなかったので今日はそそくさと出てきてしまいました。 [url=]モンクレール ニット ベスト[/url]
    イタリアのプレミアムスポーツブランド「MONCLER(モンクレール)」と「sacai(サカイ)」のデザイナー阿部千登勢によるコラボレーションライ ン「モンクレール S」が、現在販売中の2012-13年秋冬コレクションをもって終了する。 中国共産党は11月に開いた第18期中央委員会第3回総会3中全会で国家安全委員会の創設を決めている。
    [url=]モンクレール クインシー[/url] サイズが難しい部分もありますが、一応、モンクレールのタグには以下のように記載されています。 商品を見てさわり着て、、、、とっても良くてクオリティーが高かったです。
    [url=]モンクレール 人気 レディース[/url]

  7. If you’re nonetheless upon the fence: get your favored earphones, thoughts down in the direction of a Least difficult Acquire and inquire in direction of plug them into a Zune then an iPod and look at which one sounds far better to yourself, and which interface tends to make on your own smile further. Then you can recognize which is instantly for on your own.

  8. If this is true then results could possibly be skewed or perhaps the writer could possibly be not
    able to draw any sensible conclusions. Each
    format pressupposes a particular formation plus
    design for citing rephrased and echoed resources for all various printed,
    internet, and other types of resources. Remember that
    should you be new at college you’ll only progress should you practice, so work tirelessly
    on just about every assignment as you will be improving your academic way with words-at all with each one.

  9. We are a bunch of volunteers and starting a new scheme in our community.

    Your website offered us with useful information to work on. You’ve performed an impressive
    task and our whole community shall be grateful to you.

  10. There are some fascinating time limits in this article but I don抰 know if I see all of them center to heart. There may be some validity however I will take hold opinion till I look into it further. Good article , thanks and we would like extra! Added to FeedBurner as nicely

  11. JPshikenの試験問題集はそのような資料ですよ。 あなたはうちのMicrosoftの70-332日本語試験資料を購入する前に、一部分のフリーな試験問題と解答をダンロードして、試用してみることができます。 [url=]office 2016 価格[/url]
    PC買い替えたり、PCが故障すると、途端に「大問題」化しかねません。 ましてや、さらにユーザ定義の外字を作るのは問題外のさらに外です。
    [url=]office2013 プロダクト キー[/url] ジャンクいじり好きの友人はあきらめて外部ディスプレイとUSBキーボードを使用しています。 と言っても、それは「もしかして」であって確実ではないので御座いました。
    [url=]ノートン インストール[/url]
    動作および互換性でマイクロソフトも32ビット版を推奨しているほどである。 メールを確認してください」 というような表示が出ます。 [url=]office2016 メディア 購入[/url]
    QualcommのSnapdragon 820による開発プラットフォームを使って、x86/x64ベースのAbobe Photoshopを動かすというものだ。 とは言ってもパーソナルなんでExcelとWordとパワポだけです。
    [url=]windows sever 2012 エ&#124 sever 20127;ィション[/url] Q:ペンなどの編集機能は?A:本ソフトウェアは、ぼかしに特化しています。 最近ネットニュースで、」マイクロソフトが今年の10月10日、Office2007の延長サポートを終了するという発表を行っていました。
    [url=]office 2013 通販[/url]

  12. 反対する市民が取り囲んで「ヘイトデモ中止」「帰れ」と叫び、路上に座り込んだ。 WindowsXpがWindows8、8.1になったところで、作成される報告書、プレゼンの資料の中身、その質が抜群によくなるわけではない。 [url=]office2016 の プロダクト キー[/url]
    Office2013重いですね、動きが遅い。 その事と関連しているのでしょうか ?Microsoft Office2003 に有る全ての寫眞データを Photoshoop Elements 7 に移す術を教えて下さい。
    [url=]microsoft office 安い[/url] D. Office ドキュメント のローカルコンピューターを検索して、. csv フゔ゗ルに結果をエクスポートします。 しかしWindows 10では、アップグレードが無料になりました。
    [url=]office2010 プロダクト キー[/url]
    それを大多数のOfficeアプリケーションにコピーできます。 C. 一つのログオン(SSO )を使うために、Azure のの Active Directory 同期を構成してください。 [url=]windows8 1 ダウンロード[/url]
    ※不要なサービスを除外して番組表取得時間を短縮「サービス表示設定」タブをクリックし、「映像サービスのみにチェック」をクリックする。 この機能のほかに、3DバージョンのMicrosoft Paint、Action Centerの変更、タスクバー内のPeopleバーなどがある。
    [url=]win10 アップグレード[/url]  確かに、少なくとも数日程度でも余裕を持ってInsider内部でアップデートの適用範囲を広げていれば、一般ユーザー向けの公開前に問題を把握できた可能性がある。 70-247の配信開始は2014年4月7日となりました。
    [url=]office 2013 激安[/url]

  13. Right here is the perfect web site for anyone who hopes to understand this topic. You know so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I actually would want to…HaHa). You certainly put a new spin on a topic that’s been discussed for ages. Great stuff, just excellent!

  14. Greetings I am so grateful I found your blog page, I really found you
    by error, while I was browsing on Digg for
    something else, Anyways I am here now and
    would just like to say thanks a lot for a remarkable post and a all round exciting blog
    (I also love the theme/design), I don’t have time to read
    through it all at the minute but I have bookmarked it and also included your RSS feeds, so when I have
    time I will be back to read more, Please do keep up the superb

  15. The following time I read a blog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as a lot as this one. I mean, I do know it was my option to read, but I actually thought youd have something interesting to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something that you would fix should you werent too busy in search of attention.

  16. Away any conceivability heard that losing plaque weakens your bones? While it’s loving that cur extinction is associated with bone erosion, it’s no greater than a gargantuan uneasiness if you variety underweight or acclaim an deleterious aliment, and the Civil Osteoporosis Substructure says that the benefits of value impoverishment chiefly outbalance the risks. Ancillary conjunction obliterate minus can kidney your bones stronger

  17. It’s a shame you don’t have a donate button! I’d definitely donate to this excellent blog! I guess for now i’ll settle for bookmarking and adding your RSS feed to my Google account. I look forward to new updates and will share this blog with my Facebook group. Chat soon!

  18. yet [cue for newness] bravery, constancy, and resolution [reverse of submission].
    It is common for teachers to lament that students are not able to write despite having done quite well inside PMR
    English exam for 15-year-olds. If you say
    because over and over again, the thing the reader will probably be aware of happens because – it’ll stifle your argument and it’s also towards the top of their email list of issues
    you should avoid in your academic work.

  19. Youre so cool! I dont suppose Ive read anything like this before. So nice to find somebody with some original thoughts on this subject. realy thank you for starting this up. this website is something that is needed on the web, someone with a little originality. useful job for bringing something new to the internet!

  20. Pretty part of content. I just stumbled upon your blog and in accession capital to say that I get in fact loved account your blog posts. Anyway I’ll be subscribing to your augment or even I fulfillment you get admission to persistently quickly.

  21. facebook find love –
    With havin so much content do you ever run into any problems of plagorism or
    copyright violation? My blog has a lot of completely unique
    content I’ve either written myself or outsourced but it seems a lot of
    it is popping it up all over the web without my authorization. Do you know any methods to help prevent content from being ripped off?

    I’d truly appreciate it.

  22. まず、USBメモリを片方のコンピューターに挿し、データをコピーします。 以下の操作を行うには、差し込み印刷を行うための、宛名や住所などのデータが必要です。 [url=]office2010 メディア 購入[/url]
    もう一つは、三鴨山で、これは万葉の昔、古人らが遠く関東平野を眺めたときにあたかも鴨が3羽並んで飛んでいるような山容に見えたことからこの名がつけられました。 と、いうわけで理解するにはやってるのが一番!環境は JavaScript と同じ MacBook Air の SublimeText3 でいきます ! 次はTypeScriptを楽しむための環境を準備します。
    [url=]windows8.1 ストア アプリ[/url] この要件を満たすためにコンピュータを設定する必要があります。 今までは家のPCとネットワーク経由でファイル転送を行って作業していたので、ノートPCのストレージは少なくて済んでいたのだが、いつでもどこでもネットがあるとは限らず、それにアクセス速度や手軽さはやはりノートPC内に保存されている事に越した事は無い。
    [url=]office personal 2016 ダウンロード 版[/url]
    大幅アップグレードがあったので、それも適用しました。 あなたはソリューションを実装する必要があ ります。 [url=]office2016 ソフト[/url]
    ↑レッドベルサイュ↑筒状の花弁で八重咲のダブルクリック↑ダブルクリック↑ダブルクリック福井市・宮ノ下コスモス広苑 2016.10.04 朝9時頃↑今朝、Windows 10、バージョン 1607 の機能更新プログラムを実行しています。 また表示速度も向上しており、ユーザが一番気になる部分をしっかりとサポートしています。
    [url=]office2010 personal 価格[/url]  自動更新に関連するプログラムは「KB2952664」と「KB3035583」。 ライバルのAppleは、既に「Mac OS X」のアップデートを無償で提供し続けていますが、ついにマイクロソフトも無償アップデートに乗り出すことになるのです。
    [url=]win7 アップグレード[/url]

  23. それも、新しいパソコンライフを始める一つの契機になるかと思い、今朝はそれについて紹介させていただいた次第です。 話、変わって昨日の阪神の試合負けましたね、っていうかよくもあんなコンディションで試合したよなぁ~そっちの方がびっくりですわ。 [url=]windows 8.1 の インストール[/url]
    「Windows 10」端末が2億台を突破、とMicrosoftが発表 という記事を見つけました 米Microsoftは1月4日(現地時間)、2015年7月29日にリリースした「Windows 10」の月間稼働端末(monthly active devices)が2億台を超えたと発表した。 トラフィックの混雑を避けるべく、アップデートの提供は数段階に分けて行われる。
    [url=]windows 7 の ダウンロード[/url] <日本は世界のなかでも特異な風土をもっていて、そのことが世界は羨ましく思っている。 通常サイズのSIMカードを使う機器には、MicroSIMカードはサイズが違うため、そのままでは使えません。
    [url=]win7 アップグレード[/url]
    「1か月予報が発表され 春爛漫の暖かさに・・。 ビルトインアカウントを使っていると、設定から他のユーザーを追加しようとすると、何故か、コンピューターの管理のユーザーアカウントの管理コンソールが開きますが、Home エディションの場合は、この機能は使えないからコントロールパネルを使え、と怒られます。 [url=]windows10 ストア アプリ[/url]
      ※続けてメールデータをコピーするので、2つのエクスプローラーは閉じないでください。 だが、依然として何百万台ものXPマシンが稼働中だ。
    [url=]win7 アップグレード[/url] 微软还未给出相关解决办法。 11.ウィザードを「完了」し、マシンを再起動。
    [url=]office2010 の プロダクト キー[/url]

  24. There are definitely a whole lot of particulars like that to take into consideration. That is a nice level to carry up. I supply the ideas above as general inspiration but clearly there are questions just like the one you deliver up where the most important thing can be working in honest good faith. I don?t know if finest practices have emerged round issues like that, but I am certain that your job is clearly recognized as a good game. Both boys and girls feel the impression of just a moment抯 pleasure, for the rest of their lives.

  25. If this is true then results could possibly be skewed or writer might be can not draw any sensible conclusions.
    Cross out any irrelevant ones making your better that
    will put them into a logical order. Run-on sentences occur as
    a result of not enough punctuation and happen when you become lost inside your essay.

  26. facebook find love –
    Howdy very nice website!! Man .. Excellent .. Wonderful ..
    I will bookmark your site and take the feeds additionally?
    I’m happy to find so many useful information right here within the submit,
    we need develop extra strategies on this regard, thanks for sharing.
    . . . . .

  27. We stumbled over here coming from a different website and thought I might check things out. I like what I see so now i’m following you. Look forward to checking out your web page for a second time.

  28. A powerful share, I just given this onto a colleague who was doing somewhat analysis on this. And he in actual fact bought me breakfast because I found it for him.. smile. So let me reword that: Thnx for the treat! However yeah Thnkx for spending the time to debate this, I really feel strongly about it and love studying more on this topic. If possible, as you become experience, would you thoughts updating your blog with extra details? It’s highly useful for me. Big thumb up for this blog post!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *